Ego & Control: Are They Holding You Back?
Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same patterns, feeling frustrated but unsure why? More often than not, ego and the need for control are quietly running the show - without us even realizing it.
Kedy Kutt
3/12/20252 min read
The ego thrives on identity, on being “right,” on protecting us from discomfort. And control? It gives us a false sense of security, making us believe that if we just hold on tighter, we can shape the world exactly as we want it. But in reality, these two forces can become our biggest enemies, keeping us trapped in cycles that no longer serve us.
Becoming Self-Aware: The First Step to Change
The good news? You’re not powerless in this. The first step is awareness. If you don’t recognize these patterns, they start to define you. They become your default responses, shaping your decisions, relationships, and even your self-worth.
Do you struggle to accept feedback without getting defensive?
Do you resist help because it makes you feel like you're losing control?
Do you find it hard to let go and trust the process?
If any of these sound familiar, it’s not a flaw—it’s just a pattern. And patterns can be changed.
Shifting Your Perspective
Once you start noticing these habits, you can begin to make small changes. And it’s not as hard as you might think. Here are some ways to start:
Pause & Observe – When you feel resistance, stop and ask yourself: Is this my ego talking? Am I reacting out of fear or the need to be in control?
Reframe Help as Love – If someone close to you is offering support, consider this: Are they really trying to control me, or do they just see my potential and want the best for me?
Own Your Mindset – At the end of the day, only you can do the inner work. No one can force change upon you. You are in control of your own thoughts, reactions, and growth.
Letting Go to Move Forward
The truth is, trying to control everything only creates resistance. But when we loosen our grip, we open up to new possibilities, stronger relationships, and a greater sense of peace. Growth isn’t about eliminating the ego - it’s about recognising when it’s running the show and choosing a different path.
So, next time someone who loves you offers guidance, try not to see it as a challenge to your independence. Instead, see it for what it is: a reflection of your potential. And when you feel the urge to control a situation, take a step back and ask yourself -what if letting go is exactly what I need to do?
True power isn’t about control. It’s about self-awareness, trust and the ability to grow beyond who you once were.
